In a world where the fabric of social connections is changing rapidly, the importance of manners cannot be overlooked. From old-school table manners to understanding respect and politeness, these values act as the backbone of society. My mother, a fervent advocate of etiquette, taught me the clear distinction between a gentleman and what she termed a "white trash." She even gave me a copy of Emily Post’s “Book of Etiquette” when I was a teenager. While she wasn’t a “yes ma’am/ no ma’am” type of mom, she did expect and demand manners.
Here are five essential tips she taught me:
1. Mind Your Table Manners: Simple gestures like
using the right utensils and not talking with your mouth full can make a huge
difference. These not only make you more pleasant to dine with but also show
your regard for others at the table.
2. Show Respect: Respect is more than just a word;
it's a way of treating others how you wish to be treated. Whether it's holding
the door for someone, returning a shopping cart to the “corral” or listening
attentively when others are speaking, showing respect goes a long way in
building positive relationships.
3. Be Polite: Saying "please" and
"thank you" might seem trivial, but these words carry significant
weight. Politeness reflects a sense of appreciation and kindness, values that
never go out of style. Do you say thank you when someone holds open a door for
you?
4. Understand the Context: Being able to adapt your
manners to different social situations is crucial. Whether it's a formal dinner
party or a casual get-together with friends, understanding what's appropriate
can help you navigate various social landscapes with grace.
5. Be Authentic: While manners are important, they
should never come across as forced or artificial. Being genuine in your
interactions makes you more approachable and fosters true connections.
Manners are more than just a set of rules; they are the
expression of our regard and empathy for others. They enable us to live
together in a society where humanity is respected. The lessons I learned from
my mother have been pivotal in shaping me as a person, allowing me to navigate
the world. Embracing these values not only enriches our personal lives but
fortifies the very fabric of our communities. Let us all strive to embody these
principles and pass them on to future generations.
